Irony

I was reading through some research works this evening and I chanced upon a research done by the loneliest person I know. And guess what he wrote about? Poor guy, he wrote about happiness!

Well at least I hope he found his way to it by now.

It takes a lot to humiliate me. But this person did. I went to him to ask for a professional favor and he ranted about some comments I made when I was working with him 6 years ago! And mind you, he asked for those comments and he was just not ready. The bewilderment I felt (and looking back, it did flatter me even) was due to the fact that our encounter was brief, that it was years ago, and still he remembers with so much anger. Talk about bitterness!

In his research he wrote about people's happiness being heavily influenced by how we are useful to others, how we make our family happy, etc. And as I flip through the pages, I could almost hear him saying in the background that these basis were because the subjects have poor self-concept, dependent, and whatever psychopathology he could think of!

I remember one time, a client of his asked me if she could use the phone and I readily said yes not thinking of it as a bother. She was very courteous and used the phone only for about a minute. When she left, I got myself a shock when he psychoanalyzed my allowing the person to use the phone because I could not say no, am a people pleaser, with poor self-concept... blah blah blah.... duh?

Well... life is an irony. We sometimes profess the very things we are just "hoping" to have. I am like that too sometimes.

But for all it's worth... I hope he does find happiness, the last time i saw him... he badly needs it. Ang pikon, talo!